Like a guy and want to get him interested? Too shy to make the first move? Find it difficult to make any guy friends? Have guy friends but even the ones you are attracted to, end up becoming “just friends’?
If the answer to any one of the questions above is yes, then this article is for you.
We often hear that we should have positive body language to be successful at work and that ‘90% of all human communication is non-verbal’, yet most of us still fail to take this under any sort of consideration when trying to attract men. So do you really need the right body language to attract men?
We have been told at seminars, training camps and other places that body language is about: shoulders back, stand tall, strong eye contact and the list goes on. Some even go to the extent of “Don’t put your hands in your pockets, you’ll seem nervous.” And the classic, “Don’t cross your arms, crossed appendages give off an icy vibe.” Now whilst both of these rules may be true and helpful, honestly, no one has perfect body language 100% of the time, and it would be incredibly unnatural to try and do so. You’ll end up looking more like a military soldier standing to attention rather than someone who is attractive to men.
But would these instructions account for 90% of all human communication being non-verbal? And, could it be affecting your interactions with guys?
Did I get your attention yet?
But here are a few tips, which, if you put into practice will make a dramatic difference in your progress towards attracting men. You can use these tips to sexually attract and even get attention from guys you don’t know. Use these body language tricks in your school, at gym or at work and get any man to like you. You’ll see a difference in the number of guys approaching you immediately!
1) Give Him An Opening
Most women, on a night out, stand in a group like a fortress, with their backs to the rest of the room, making it almost impossible for any guy to come over. Common girls, do not make it difficult; give a guy an avenue to approach you. Instead, standing in a more or less V shape, side by side, so that you’ve still got each other’s full attention, will make you more approachable for interested guys.
This position will also give you a clear view of the room and enable making eye contact which is a great tool to attract men as well. According to a research, eyes are the first part which attracts men and then is the smile. Look in his eyes for few seconds and when he notices smile and look away. This trick always works.
Holding eye contact actually develops mystery for the guy and he may start thinking whether you are interested in him. This mystery will help you a lot to get his attention.
2) When he does come over
The smile is your best weapon of seduction. When you shake hands, hear his name, and greet him, that’s when you really smile. It will hint that the smile is especially for him. The trick is to make sure your nerves don’t wipe your smile off your face when you two meet or for the rest of the evening.
When you smile and laugh more for a particular guy then you present this as a gesture which is one of the subliminal sign of flirting and makes you more approachable. Try to smile often around the guy you want to attract and this will help him develop feelings for you, psychologically. Men find smiling women more attractive than the one who’s smile is always absent. It is one of the easiest body language to attract men.
3) The deadly combo
The next thing to remember is gesturing. Gesturing is an integral part of communication, and it’s a great way to attract men.
I’m sure you have noticed, the fundamental similarity between the most charismatic people you meet, the best presenters on TV and even the greatest orators of all time is that they all gesture when they speak. As well as allowing you to elaborate and emphasize a particular point, gesturing makes for easier flirting. However, the mistake that this may lead to is gesturing too much. People who gesture too much can seem quite nervous, and it often distracts the person that’s listening from what you’re saying. So it’s important that you find a happy medium
Practice your speech and gestures in front of the mirror or ask a friend to observe your movements. Most actors become perfect through mirror practicing. It will help you better understand your facial expressions and your body language and you will be able to display a confident and attractive body language
Now combine this with a little touch and it could be a potent combination. In a conversation with your guy sometimes play with your hair, touch him and laugh more. Touch is really important for dating. If you find it difficult to suddenly break the touch barrier with a guy, it’s because you’ve been trying to reach out and grab him with dormant limbs. Once your hands are already moving, it easy to play the touch card and any guy will start taking interest in you. Start gesturing when you speak and you’ll find flirting with guys a lot easier.
We know that when people touch in the context of intimacy, their heart rates increase. This might be too much for a first date, but it’s great for a second. To make it effective, briefly, gently touch the area between a guy’s mid-arm and wrist around five times per 15 minutes of conversation. However, don’t be a stickler for the timing or the frequency. Go for what you’re comfortable with.
4) Last but not the least
‘Be yourself’. You have probably heard this a million times too, from a variety of people and sources. But, it still holds true and probably the most important advice we give you. Love yourself and be honest with yourself and with others and this will help you easily learn the tricks of body language. Happy, accomplished and full of positive energy and good vibes will make you more attractive. Guys are often attracted to a woman who is happy because your happiness can bring more joy to their lives. No one would want a depressing and unhappy woman, right? So try to send good vibes to people, not only to attract men, but also to make great friends.
Armed with these few pointers, we would like to encourage you to go out there and get the guy you want. We wish you All the Best!!